Last week I forgot a birthday. That in itself is unremarkable. I do it all the time. I’m one of those people who remembers a Birthday months in advance and usually up to a week of the actually date…only to have it slip away entirely from memory on the Day itself! Truth be told, I have now reached a stage where I can’t even remember that I’ve forgotten (if you get what I mean!), without someone reminding me, like my friend did a few days ago! You know those nagging sensations one relies on…the ones that warn, ‘You sure you’re not forgetting something?’ or ‘Wait a sec, isn’t it so & so’s B’day today? What’s the date? Geez is it March already?!’…turns out those dim with age too (lets hope it’s just age and nothing more serious!). So you see, the whole thing is pretty hopeless!
With the advent of memory-enhancing tools like Facebook, one would think forgetting Birthdays, Anniversaries and any number of important dates and events would be a thing of the past…apparently not! Turns out, the mind only remembers what it’s focused on in the moment (at least mine does!), and so I am perfectly capable of logging on to FB, ignoring all important reminders, and heading straight to my farm for an hour of relaxing, brainless activity 😛 I know! That’s just me! These last two weeks have only served to make matters worse. It’s almost like 2011 has ushered in a period of frenzied activity. There’s been some cosmic shifting of gears and Life is taking on a rogue treadmill-like quality…repetitive, unending & perpetually rushed! Maybe I should just blame it all on Saturn? The scariest thing (to a lousy multi-tasker like me), is that it doesn’t feel like a phase. I look into the future and all I see is more of the same. When did Life turn into this giant hamster-wheel??
I know time-management is the key…whatever you may think, I’m not an idiot! But lets face facts here…I suck at it! I do! Being a ‘go-with-the-flow’ kind of person has it’s advantages but one of the biggest cons is that I suck at planning and sticking to schedules. I generally let my interests of the moment consume me to the point where I’m neglecting important but boring stuff, like helping Ishaan with his homework (although in principle, I don’t think toddlers should even have homework!), doing groceries, deciding menus (ugh!!), doing laundry, collecting laundry, returning calls and the like. Unfortunately, this level of involvement doesn’t affect my fondness for food, enhancing it instead to humongous proportions! There goes that particular weight-loss mantra 😛 No, what bothers me now, is that in all of this constant running around, the tables have turned and I haven’t even noticed! Suddenly I’m swamped in the mundane and it’s leaving me no time to do the things that keep me from losing my mind…writing, reading, taking pictures, having fun, breathing!!
But it isn’t just the physical activity that’s draining. The frenetic brain-buzz’s the real killer! There are many changes happening and innumerable decisions to be made…it’s causing serious brain-drain. It seems these days as if I’m always weighing pros and cons, considering alternatives, anticipating problems and researching solutions…whew! Who would have imagined ‘thinking’ is one of the most exhausting activities there is! Most days I live in a kind of fugue, moving from one thought to the other, one task to another, mechanically. Something’s gotta give! This is not a state of mind I want to be in for long, as you may well imagine. Who would?
Prioritize…that’s the key, but I find that easier to do with chores and the physical stuff than thoughts. Have you tried it? It’s much more difficult, given that, thoughts don’t obey any rules, popping in and out of the mind with irritating nonchalance! It demands an extraordinary amount of discipline and a steely resolve, none of which I seem able to drum up right now. So forgive & forget if this post irritates you as much as it’s irritating me right now! I’m just trying to write myself back into…writing. Trying to build up the discipline and gather the steely resolve, bit by bit, one post at a time. This post has been in my head for a while now, jostling for space with a million others, and I’ve only just managed to get it on paper, in short bursts of free time, over the last couple of days. It’s been frustrating, but I’ve got it done. I know I must find time (somewhere, somehow), to write at least 3 posts a week or suffer insanity. I think I can. I know I must.
Thanks for listening, People.
10 thoughts on “Something’s Gotta Give!”
Everyone, at some point of time, goes thru the same phase…so you are no different. Hence it’s best in oyr interest to enjoy all the good things that life has to offer you and just let go all those not-so-pleasant ones…like I do!!!
And mind you…I am no different…I forget all the important occassions at all times….Thanks to my Hubby and now FB (Wow…I just realised they both rhyme so well…..may be they have lots in common, too) that I, now, manage to atleast remember the Birthdays….!!
Yup Meeta! I know that’s what I need to do. It’s just the ‘doing’ is harder than the ‘knowing’ 😛 And you can imagine my state…even FB doesn’t help me remember!
Your condition is called “being a mom” Harsha…I used to remember everybody’s birthdays and have cards in the mail well in advance…that was 26 years ago…no more!
My advice is to roll with it!
I think that’s what scares me the most Wendy, that’s this is no ‘phase’! Once a Mom always a Mom and all that! How I wish every kid came, each with their unique instruction manual 😛
But I’m trying my best to follow your advice and roll with it. Ever so often I need a nudge to start the roll 🙂
This week looks promisingly quiet, although I don’t want to tempt fate! Am looking forward to catching up on all my favorite blogs! It’s a Priority 🙂
Totally feel you on this one. Good for you for getting the post out there, which is more than I can say. Feel like my life is dragging me around by the collar lately too. Keep on keepin’ on Harsha. Love your posts!
Thanks for understanding Jacque 🙂 Hang in there friend! Sometimes I think Life is just that…hanging on and riding out the storms, such as they are.
I often think the hamster wheel will go as fast as our guilt will let it go. But oh, that guilt. It’s hard not to listen to it.
Hang in there, Harsha. May you find relaxation soon!
You said it Maura! You know I always thought I would be good with the guilt…but that’s before I became a Mom! Also living in a house with Mom & Granny who have put their kids above all else is a tough act to follow.
What I need, like all Moms, are 48 hour days! But wait…is that really what I want…or would it just turn into a longer guilt-trip? Never mind…
Ah grief, Harsha – I feel your pain!
We have the birthday thing in common – so irritating. I have to program reminders on my cellphone, or the calendar on my PC, which means I shouldn’t forget to charge it / turn it on.
I understand the brain-drain too! And struggling to purge a specific post from the mind to make room for other thoughts . . . I hear ya!
I’m a little late getting to your blog (again) so hope things are going better now.